I’m surprised to be here. Not that I thought I’d be dead or anything like that. I’m not sure what I expected from the entry to old age, but certainly not having as much fun as I am.
I didn’t have much modeling — I’ve outlived my parents by twenty years or so. I’m an only child and although I’ve experienced probably as many deaths in my circle as most my age, I’ve been fortunate not to have to deal much with other’s illnesses. At least not recently.
My roughly same aged friends are a lively group. You’re much more likely to find us at the beach, even surfing or boogie boarding, or at whatever protest is currently happening, or involved in civic projects like protecting the vote than at a country club or sitting around playing cards. Most of us are still working because retirement sounds boring. Those who aren’t working might as well be given their regular activities and involvements.
Here’s what I’ve found in the last year or so:
- I am capable of falling head over heals in love and having a massive crush, much like any teenager.
- I’m also wise enough to realize that crushes don’t last and tend to get painful. I’d read often I have a choice about love, and this time I made the choice to stop crushing and start loving. What an adventure that has been and still is. I might tell you about it sometime.
- I’m delighted that writing is still a real pleasure for me and that computers and the internet have made writing easier in many ways.
- My writing provided an entree to working in what is likely to be my last tech startup, something I never would have guessed I’d get to do again. And I’m loving almost all of it.
- Recently I’ve seen how my ability to really listen helps people sometimes, often enough in fact to work at my deep listening ability even more.
- That has led to starting a life coaching business which is working pretty well.
- When the Covid pandemic lock downs started I felt and still feel that I had an advantage, having spent many years working at home alone.
- My challenge with the start up was first how to learn to work collaboratively again, and then do it from a distance.
- That distance sometimes bothers me a great deal. I’ve been surprised that I can still get lonely. Before the pandemic if I got lonely I’d just conjure a coffee date or movie date or shopping confab. I miss those and I’m impressed that I am so much in touch with my feelings. I’ve worked hard to do the internal work and it’s paying off.
I had no idea I had so much to look forward to. Which means, I suspect, that if you’re even a bit younger than I am, you also have some marvelous time to anticipate.
Write well and often,